BBCs Accept BBW Wives

I am puffy. That is to say, I have a few extra pounds. I carry it well and I believe most men find me attractive. But when it comes to those post or those who answer online profile ads, I find a great distinction between white fellas and black guys.

White guys are far more likely to reject a liaison once a full body, full reveal pic has been sent. Some are honest enough to say they are looking for fit women only. That's fine, I don't begrudge them their turn-ons. But the typical reply to my pics from black studs, even highly sought-after hunks with large cocks, is that I'm extremely hot and they can't wait to get together with me. The difference is startling. Black guys, after cumming in me, often rub and massage by body and my butt cheeks. They *like* my body. White guys usually don't show this level of comfort with my body. I don't believe this is because black men have lower standards, nor do I believe they are so hard up to nail a white woman they'll accept what white guys reject. HARDLY! The average MILF-loving BBC has been in a gym five times more than the average liaison-seeking white guy and has the hot body to prove it. Most black men that have cum inside me have ripped abdomens, tight shapely pecks, long cocks, and can go and go and go sexually. They are sought-after, coveted, and prized by white women. And make no mistake, there's a lot of married white women seeking BBCs, so these black guys have their pick. So it truly is a difference in taste in women.

I'm not thin. This is a cell pic I sent to my husband after I
sucked a lover to orgasm and he splashed on my tits.

I don't know whether its nature or nurture that creates this difference. My husband theorized that white male culture during the formative high school years taunted any boy who showed an interest in a chunky girl. Combine that with the parade of Playboy bunnies who are held out as paragons of sexiness, and there's an argument for environmental priming. By contrast, I have my own theory. The average white male's penis is shorter than those of the average black mans. At least, the average of those I've seen of each. There are some very large and long cocks on white guys to be sure, but it isn't typical. I've also seen some five and six inchers on black men, but again, not the norm. So for a white man to sink four or five inches into a woman, she has to be agile enough to get her legs bent way out of the way, and in doggie style must have a small enough butt and be thin enough so that there's no extra padding pushing him back out while rocking back and forth. A black man, however, can get four to five inches into a woman while a couple of extra inches are held back by thigh or butt girth. And this four to five inch length is key to not flopping out while pumping. My bet is there's an unconscious relaxation that occurs in the minds of smaller guys once they've sunk to a safe depth that assures they won't keep popping back out, and it's harder to achieve that relaxation with a heavy woman. This translates unconsciously into a preference that gets expressed and reinforced as a sexual attraction to one versus the other. At least, that's my hypothesis.

BBCs Love MILFs and Married Wives

It appears that most white guys who are looking for some action on the side are looking for young hot blonde chicks, or as close to that ideal as they can get. Everyone wants an attractive partner, but I find the definition of attractive varies between that of black men and white men.

For most white guys, their ideal is the college girl on Spring Break, as featured in Girls Gone Wild videos. These near-virginal girls are unattached, shapely, and naive. They can be seduced with beads and too-tall souvenir glasses of frozen margaritas. Needless to say, I don't pass muster with many of these fellas.

Most black guys I encounter like women in their mid-thirties to mid-forties, ans accept a wide age range below and above. They prefer their women attached, sexually liberated, previously well-used with a proven record of sluttiness. Reasonable signs of aging are par for the course. This fits the description of me, and as a result I find I am hit on by black men far more often that white men.

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The Affair Code of Conduct

When it comes to greenlighting a discrete illicit rendezvous, we are all nervous that the other individual or couple won't keep their end of the bargain. After all, we don't know this person who has contacted us electronically or answered our ad. Most of the time we proceed with an expectation they know the implicit rules and will adhere to them, until some evidence tells us otherwise. At all phases of the initial screening process, we are keeping a sharp eye out for signs they aren't diligent in their adherence to the rules.

THE CODE OF SEXUAL AFFAIR CONDUCT

One. Each side will act with extreme diligence to guard the identity of the other party.

Two. Participation in a non-monogamous lifestyle requires you be accepting of your choice and nonjudgmental of others.

Three. Neither side will post photos of the other party unless the other party gives explicit permission. Always assume the other party does not give permission. Always presume the other party expects you will not post or share photos, not even to your own private cloud site (Flickr, Picassa). This applies even to those those photos shared during the screening process, whether a rendezvous resulted or no.

Four. If a liaison results in photographs of the encounter that include you, and you are in possession of those photographs or they have been given to you as a parting thank-you gift, follow rule three. Do not email these photos to friends to brag of your conquest. Do not email these photos to other prospective rendezvous candidates as proof of your lifestyle involvement.

Five. Do not add the person's lifestyle email address into your email client contacts list using the person's real name. Should you later send an email to multiple parties, the other parties will have the name of lifestyle participant as well as their alias (often explicit) email address.

Six. When emailing multiple people, always put your email address in the To: field and their email addresses in the Bcc: field so each party's email is kept private from the others in the list.

Seven. Don't text or call a lifestyle friend without prior permission. Assume their telephone is monitored by people who do not support the non-monogamy choice.

Eight. If a party engages in legal activities beyond your bounds, you cannot opt to censure and can never out that person because it is out of your comfort zone.

Nine. If a party initially anonomous to you is discovered to be a person you recognize, be it coworker, restaurant waiter, fellow PTA member, teacher, or whathaveyou, you must either decline further contact without offering a justification (preferred) or  mention in non-specifics your knowledge with the dual broviso that you would accept a decision on their part to disengage and that you will not reveal the discovery under any circumstances.

Ten. If a party is discovered to be a close acquantance, perhaps an extended family member, spouse of a close friend, or immediate neighbor, you must end the contact and must never reveal the knowledge. Do not succumb to a temptation to inform your best friend of a cheating-inclined spouse. You have come to this information through your own proclivities and must hold to the code.

Eleven. If a past rendezvous is discovered by your non-supportive spouse, do not attempt amends by outing the lifestyle person, chastizing the person, or moralizing to the person. Do your intra-family reconciliation within your family and simply drop contact with the lifestyle friend. The same goes if you have a moral conversion and see the "error of your ways." It is only an error in your life.

Twelve. Disclose medical infirmities. If you have a problem, even a temporary one, let the other party know before you meet. Do not send photos of a healthy you only to arrive with a cast, knee brace, surgery bandage or other unexpected encumbrance.

Thirteen. When you find someone who excites you through online sexual solicitations, they are not available for seduction and dating. They are not candidates to become your significant other. Do not mistake sexual adventure for an invitation to break up their relationship.

Final thoughts: trust in the other party to adhere to this code. Nearly everyone does. Trust the people who are asking for your attention are not known to you. They almost never are. It's a big world out there. Trust that those who later learn of your occupation or vanilla life will enjoy chatting with you about your vanilla life and won't compromise you. This is a hobby that requires trust in your fellow participant.

Guys Want Slutty Wives

People perceive most husbands as being very jealous of anyone seeing their wives nude. Here I'm talking about the classical jealousy, the negative kind that brings forth hostility. Some husbands are seen as not jealous, and it confuses us. Don't they care? Do they really love and covet their wives? Why are they so...bland?

I think there's a huge in-between. I think the majority of men don't fall into either of the above.

While most husbands are jealous, they want that jealousy to be provoked. It's been my experience in talking with married women and with many husbands that *most* husbands, not the minority but the majority, want to show off their wives. I would suggest that 70% of men want other men to see their wives nude, either in person or via shared photographs. It manifests everywhere, from encouraging the wearing of revealing club outfits to encouraging breast implants, tattoos that are in risque areas, nipple piercings, clit piercings, men wanting their women to flash at Lake Havasu, at Mardi Gras, and at Harley events, to the posting of their wives' pics on Picassa and Flickr. They want others to admire their wives. They want other men to want what they have!

That's also why men like dating strippers and porn stars. They actually prefer that other men have seen the love of their life nude. A good portion of these men even like to hang out with guys who have previously bedded their wife. 

Hubby dropped me off at a hotel before going to the
airport to red-eye for a business meeting. When he
arrived the next morning, he had this waiting in his inbox.
My lover, a man my husband had never met or even seen
a photo of, took this after cumming in my ass and withdrawing.
I think it was incredibly slutty of me to do. Yet I'm not
forward with men in real life, and am the perfect conservative
soccer mom that no one suspects of having this alter ego.

The only reason this is not more mainstream is because the set of people for whom this is thrilling is in opposition to the set of people who feel it is a terrible sin. It is not kosher to acknowledge this desire. It is risky to let this be known. It can jeapardize careers and strain family relationships if it is leaked to a wider public. So everyone must keep this tendency a closely-guarded secret. I must keep it a closely-guarded secret outside of my anonymous blog. The net result is everyone is left with the impression that anger-jealousy is the prevalent jealousy because no man can speak up about *wanting* to share his wife.

In my other posts, I've introduced a different kind of jealousy, the kind my husband has. His is of the type that makes him lust after me strongly. It also causes him to dote on me, idolize me somewhat, and do nice things for me every day to ensure he keeps my heart. But we both know my heart is not up for grabs, only my vagina is. lol!

His softer jealousy stems from the complete confidence he has that I'm his wife and will continue to be his wife. No lover can steal me away. But at the same time, men he has never met, and I've never met, can undress me and put their cocks into my pussy. That definitely provokes a level of jealousy. So how do you describe a feeling that makes a man shocked by his wife's behavior, while knowing there is no actual threat to the relationship? 

My husband is a visual person. Me, not so much. I don't look at sex videos or photos. I enjoy the act, but am not into visualizations. He, by contrast, is fairly creative and does a lot of visualizing in his work; enhanced, of course, by our private collection of pics of me being taken and used in every conceivable way by a bevy of studly men. This arouses him. To hear him say it, he greatly prefers looking at photos of me being fucked by another man than he does looking at traditional porn of any kind. While I'm certain he looks at some porn occasionally, I do know he goes wild looking at pics of me--the naughtier the better.

He describes the non-anger jealousy as manifesting in a couple of visualizations: 

One, he visualizes himself as the other man, the one who is right before his eyes pumping his cock into my pussy. He imagines what it must be like -- how cool it must be -- to be able to come to a house, undress a woman, fuck her, cum in her, then leave with no strings, no obligations. My husband wants that priviledge too! But since he's infatuated with me, he prefers to visualize himself as the strange man and imagines himself entering me for the first time. How warm and surprisingly tight my vagina is, how wet and lubricated (especially with the cum of the other man still coating me). To him, it's as if he has bedded me for the first time, rather than our sex being just another go in the thousands of times we've done it over the years. And according to him, this visual works; especially since he sees it play out in front of him several times a year.

Two, he envisions himself as himself, but unmarried. He views me as the longstanding girlfriend of this other man and he as a spectator to a lovemaking encounter between my boyfriend and I. Since he has just watched this previously-unknown man plow into me repeatedly, that's no great stretch. In this scenario, he wants me, he falls in love with me right on the spot. He knows he wants to steal me away from this other guy. He has neither the physique nor the equipment to match this sex-stud's bedroom prowess, but he will use everything he can muster to lure me away. So when this other man leaves, my husband attempts (and succeeds) at turning himself from outsider to seducer to fiance to husband, all within a timeframe of about six orgasms peppered in between with dinner, massage, adorations, and other benefits to yours truly.

My husband loves when the other man is enjoying me, the more overt his enjoyment the better. Moaning, grunting, and saying how excellent my body is and pleasuring him are all favorable enhancements. It lets my husband really feel he has something others delight in. As an aside, most BBCs are very open in talking about how nice my camel toe is, how tight my pussy is, how they are building up to an orgasm and want to flood my insides. Most white fellas are far more muted. They appear to believe that it's impolite to fuck another man's wife, and this impoliteness is exacerbated by their openly acknowledging the pleasure they are getting in doing so. I often find a white fella will suddenly slump over, having just orgasmed without me or my husband being aware of his peaking. Most take great pains to hide the fact they are cumming, whether to mute potential jealousy or out of fear I will think it's premature (it can't be with me, just cum whenever), I'm not sure.

I think the photo-sharing sites are bringing this enjoyment into the mainstream. Previously there were vanilla website and porn websites, the latter being professional photos of barely-legal, photoshopped women in unrealistic poses. Now that photo-sharing sites allow the posting of voluminous amounts of pics, more and more of the content is of regular married women of all ages. These are photos taken by husbands and posted for others to see. The definition of "others" is usually only those who likewise have risque pics shared, mostly I presume because they are sharing the risk equally, i.e. both have skin in the game. So with some you must be friended in order to see nude pics, but many other couples are far more open. They share pics to any member of the site that agrees to adult content, albeit the norm is to hide identifying features. 

The importance of these sites is they force us, as a society, to confront the reality that so very many men want not only to take naughty photos of the ones they love but to share them with others. That drive to share is in contrast with our long-held perceptions that men don't want any other man to see their wives. And it's about time that misperception is dispelled. I have no problem embracing a society in which the desire to share a wife, either visually or physically, is an open secret. Do I think it will lead to more marriage failures? Not at all. I think the lack of sexual stimulus in a marriage leads to secret affairs that damage trust. I know for a fact that sharing creates a LOT of stimulus within the marriage and know a great number of couples with long-term marriages who share. The funny thing is these couples are seen by their vanilla friends as the perfect couple with the perfect marriage; they are so loving and adoring of one another. What those vanilla friends and family have no idea of is a large part of the continuing excitement in the marriage comes from the satisfying of fantasies by both parties in an open, non-threatening manner. Sign me up!

BBCs Can Get It Up

Another reason to love a good BBC is that the vast majority can get it up, every time. Not that you white fellas can't given the right set of circumstances, but in my experience any BBC can get and maintain a hard cock on demand.

Let me cut to the chase. I've had disappointments when hubby and I set up a rendezvous with various white men. This is especially true if he's the only guest to the party. I'm certain these younger (30s and 40s), virile men have no problem getting erect in the course of their normal sexual encounters. But for many, accepting our invitation entails the first time they've found themselves participating in an MFM with a couple they didn't already  know.

This BBC Achieved Another Hard-On After Cumming Twice

Apparently, good male friends who go on to marry sometimes let their buddies check out their wives when they get back together; perhaps at a drunken New Years Eve party, or perhaps in a hot-tub-gone-wild evening. This is not terribly uncommon. Since they know the other couple, likely for years, they aren't intimidated. And this gets the wheels turning: they envision doing this with other wives on the side. But going to a strange location, be it someone's house or an unfamiliar motel, can put a person on alert. This translates into a very guarded -- hopeful, but wary -- state of mind that is not conducive to a continuous erection.

Of course, upon meeting me, their fears completely abate. I'm very friendly and normal, conversational and relaxed, with no surprises, as I look exactly as the pics I sent revealed I would look. Hubby is likewise comfortable and easy going. There's no oddities, no surprises, and everyone soon relaxes. But there is an element to our scenario that adds to the trepidation:  hubby is not distracted by another female. You see, if I were in a swing club situation, the strange man gets to enjoy me while my husband is playing with another woman, perhaps that man's wife. But in our scenarios, my husband watches and takes pics. There is no other woman. This causes a lot of men to become camera shy -- or more accurately, eyeball shy. They simply aren't accustomed to being watched while they go through the initial awkward phase of that first seduction. They're often thinking: is my cock large enough? Will she be disappointed? This does not a stiffy make.

A Cock Must Be Very Stiff To Enter My Tight Anus

BBCs, by contrast, seem to LOVE this situation. Forget distracting the husband with some other woman, most BBCs want my husband to watch them drop their underwear and see my expression as I gasp at their enormity. They want my husband's eyes on them as they nestle their cock head between my labia and part my pussy lips the first time. Heck, some even want my husband to hold their cock and guide it into my pussy as an ultimate act of handing over possession of his wife to this seducer. (My husband obliges them, he's not bi but he isn't phobic either.)

So if I know my husband and I have one play night available this month, or even this block of months, I want some reasonable assurance the night won't be spent trying to massage a "this never happened before" softie to life. Conclusion: find me a BBC! No, I mean it... find me one now and get him to email me. Don't leave the page until you do this. LOL